How to Avoid Mom Guilt and Running Your Business
Today's topic is all about mom guilt over running a business. As a mother who had four children in five years, this topic really resonated with me.
I can distinctively remember when I launched my business. I was working as a pharmaceutical representative, at the time I had three littles and I was pregnant with my fourth.
Somehow in all the morning chaos I was able to get dressed and get two out the door to drop off at Montessori preschool and I had someone in my home that was helping me with my third baby which was a small mortgage payment.
After dropping the two older children off, I would get into my car and then everything would just melt away because it was quiet.
For my territory, I had a 45 minute drive to the first doctor's office that I would visit that day.
I felt like I was in control again, like I could absolutely do it all and everything was working.
Before I knew it, I was listening to All Things Considered and on my way home.
With little transition, 5:00 would smack me as I hit the door and I put on my mommy hat.
It was time for dinner, bath, reading books, and bedtime.
So why in the world would I even consider doing anything else or adding anything else onto my plate as a mother with soon to be four children under five years old?
I completely understand that guilt of wanting to do something for yourself when so many things are tugging at you for your attention.
If I could go back and talk to my younger self, there are two things that I would say.
First, allow more grace.
There seems to be a rumor going around that there can be a balance between work and life.
If you were doing one really well, something else is suffering.
Second, I would understand and give myself permission to carve out space for myself to do something that was just my own.
I feel that that your personal space is so critically important to nurture your own happiness.
So allowing yourself more grace and giving yourself permission that it is okay that you were known outside of someone's mama and wife.
I am the person that is in charge here in my own personal space and you're like, well, how in the world am I going to figure out what time to do something for myself? I got you covered. Uh, I have what I use is a digital template and I do that because I don't have time to go over and over and over again on principles. Okay, so all you have to do to access my digital week at a glance, which is a calendar that I live by each and every day.
To help you see the pockets of time available to you, I have created a time blocking digital template and easy tutorial. It is a game changer in scheduling your week.
I hope that you will allow yourself some grace and recognize that it's okay to give yourself permission to do something that is just for you.